Resentment is a self-inflicted wound that allows people from your past to continue to hurt you today. You need to let it go, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you need to get on with your life. - Rick Warren
Resentment happens when either someone doesn't apologize and make things right when they have wronged you and because they haven't made things right you don't forgive them. Or it can also happen when they have apologized, made things right, but you don't want to forgive. What happens with resentment is best described by a friend of mine. She said it's like having an open wound and instead of leaving it alone to heal, you keep picking at it, getting germs in there and then it gets all infected. It isn't the fault of the other person that it becomes infected; it is you fault, for continuing to pick at it and make it worse. Now I understand this doesn't apply to all situations, but I know that the cure for both situations is forgiveness. Jesus tells us that if we don't forgive, we won't be forgiven. Jesus tells us that even beyond forgiveness we are to bless and do good to those that are our enemies and have done us wrong. Are those hard things for you to do? I know they are hard for me. When I am ran into, I want justice. When I am the one running into someone, I want mercy. When I am done wrong, I want revenge and the other person to hurt as much or more than I do. When I do wrong, I want understanding and grace that it wasn't malicious and for them to forgive me. It makes sense why Jesus doesn't tell us to simply do good, but He tells us to do unto others what we would want done for ourselves.
Dear God, Please help me to forgive others that have hurt me. Please help me to truly let go of these hurts and not let them turn into resentment. Please help me to grow and be more like Jesus every day. Show me ways I can bless those that have hurt me. Show me how I can not only desire these things, but take steps to make real changes in my life. I love you God and I am so thankful for your Word that guides my every step. It is in Jesus Name that I pray and ask all of this. Amen.
“For if you forgive people their wrongdoing, your heavenly Father will forgive you as well. But if you don’t forgive people, your Father will not forgive your wrongdoing." Matthew 6:14-15 HCSB
“You have heard that it was said, Love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. For He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous." Matthew 5:43-45 HCSB
"Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them—this is the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12 HCSB